"Trusting" is something we all do. Its something that is a human instinct. We tend to trust people unconsciously we trust the milkman to get milk (unadultrated) every day. We trust our dhobi to take care of our clothes. Throughout the day there are so many people we trust ranging from a stranger to your best friend. Breaking of trust is always painful no matter by whom the amount of pain is directly proportional to the intensity of the relationship you share with that person.
Pain = K * IOR
Where K = Trust coefficient
IOR = Intensity of relationship unit CY (closeness years)
So the closer the person is to you the more hurt you feel. What I believe the number of years also plays a main role. Take for example your maid who has been working with you for the past 10 years however the closeness on a scale from 1-10 is say 2 since you unknowingly do care about her sometimes.
Hence IOR= 10*2 = 20
Hence pain will be
= 20K
So lets define K now it is not equal to 0 also it should vary according to the persons age group since receding of pain depends on your incidents restoring power. Categorizing the age group we find that we can short list then to 6 groups.
0-5 : age of half consciousness. However even here K != 0 since a child trusts his
mother to take care of him. Hence the pain here is mostly physical. K=2
6-10 : In this case the trust factor goes down a little bit since here the kid tend to
take more risk and in most independent than ever. K=1,
11-18 : Adolosent age the most confusing age here you trust your friends more than
your parents hence you are more prone to pain. K=5
20-30 : Time for most of ours first serious relationship hence Pain needs to be high.
K=8
31-50 : Trust here is on your spouse, kids and job and most of them are stable now.
K=4
50-end : You trust you bank and deposits for returns.
K=3.
I guess I have covered most of the factor. Please help me out in refining this theory I am planning to name this equation on the person’s name who respond me the first.
In the end a food for thought
"What happens when some one who taught you how to trust breaks it?"
Monday, March 26, 2007
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